How To Overcome Depression And Achieve Happiness

How To Overcome Depression And Achieve Happiness by Mphojane Leboko

 Copyright (c) 2013 Mphojane Leboko

Let us get this truth straight, right from the beginning of this interesting discussion.The truth is: happiness has nothing to do with what happens in your life situation. Happiness is an inborn natural state that is in every person. How and what you think relative to what happens in your life situation is what can make you depressed or happy.

Our miseries are largely due to the thoughts we hold relative to what happens in our life situations. You could never feel depressed while you were thinking about the one million dollar cheque you were going to cash at the bank tomorrow. Neither would you feel depressed thinking how wonderful it would be receiving your degree the following week with your family and friends present at the graduation ceremony. Yet if you dwelled on how dire your finances were, and the fact that your company was on the verge of laying off some of its staff, you would certainly feel depressed and unhappy.

Let us say you and your colleagues were bickering over some work related issue in the staff canteen while your tea break was long over. Your boss suddenly budges into the canteen unexpectedly. What happens then? You all change the topic at once, maybe you even smile to your advesary and casually walk out of the canteen and lie to the boss that you were talking about how to improve productivity.

What happened to your anger and frustration at one another? The answer is that you simply dismissed it from your minds and pretended that you were not quarelling. In fact many employees are so good at this kind of pretense that, one would never suspect that something was afoot.

The fact of the matter is that many of us are depressed and miserable because of the thoughts we entertain relative to what happens around us. Every person is born with a stable and happy state of mind. This is the natural state of every person's mind. But as a result of the things that happen in our lives, and the way we think about what happens, this then actually makes us miserable or depressed.

Let's take a concrete example. You have lost your job today and you have bills to pay. Do you reckon spending a sleepless night thinking about the matter is going to be of any help? Obviously not.Your thinking about the matter would never change the situation or make you feel any better. The thing to do is simply to dismiss your thinking about the matter. This is not easy but possible.With practice you can master dismissing negative thoughts as they pass through your head. Every person on this planet earth has an inborn state of intelligence or wisdom that is far more smarter and cleverer than your conscious mind in its ability to solve problems.This is not a belief but a truth.

You only have to familiarise your mind with this idea whenever you are inclined to dwell on negative thoughts about anything. Learning to dismiss negative thoughts can be truly life changing.

Whenever you find yourself thinking negatively, you have to be acutely aware of the fact. You need to be alert and see what harm you are doing to yourself by following a train of thoughts that are negative. Watch yourself very closely each time a negative thought assails your mind.

One thing for certain, you will never stop thinking even if you tried, that is with the exception of when you are dead, because even when you are asleep, you are still thinking subconsciously.That is why you dream.

So the secret is to be ever present and alert to the NOW. Be always present. Never let yourself to be consumed by your thoughts, whether they are happy or unhappy thoughts. Simply watch your thoughts as you would watch a baby at play and never diverting your attention from the baby lest the baby harms itself. Your thinking can paly tricks on you if you don't watch its activities vigilantly.This way you will be effectively dismissing any negative thoughts that can drive you to depression and misery.

Do this kind of thinking for a month and you will be surprised how less depressed you feel just after a week. Stop trying to think yourself out of depression, because it is impossible.Simply dismiss negative thoughts, and your natural happiness will simply manifest in your life.That's all.

Emeritus English and History teacher. Self development, health and affiliate marketing enthusiast. For more related topics on self development you can visit my website at:

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